I get these emails digested, so forgive me if I'm repeating something someone has already posted. However, the gender being talked about here is self-identified gender, not gender of the person one might be interested in, correct? Though, I guess if you change one, the other will have to change as well. I like the "it's complicated", because it provides a space not only for hemaphrodites (sic?), but for transgenders, and androgynous people as well, and it doesn't force them to define themselves, when in fact, many people in such a situation are constantly struggling with what they are and how to self-define. The reason I make the distinction above, is that a person who self-identifies or is looking for someone in the "it's complicated" category is one thing, a person who is bisexual is another. A bisexual often self-identifies as clearly male or female, but is simply interested in partners of either sex, while a person who is interested in the "it's complicated", is not interested in bisexuals, but interested in someone whose self-identified gender boundaries are not so clearly defined. Though, this brings up a usage problem with the "it's complicated" category. When self-identifying gender as "it's compolicated", it is pretty clear what the person is saying. When looking for "it's complicated", it is not so clear--it could represent an indecision about being bisexual as well as a clear decision about wanting transsexual (say). Thus, for the "seeking" usage, it might be better to label the category, "other", though that particular word could have a negative overtone. Ingbert Floyd PhD. Student Graduate School of Library and Information Science University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign -- ========================================== Check out the unofficial GSLIS Wiki: http://www.gslis.org/ Tell me what you think, if you find it useful, or if you have any ideas for how to organize it better. And if you feel comfortable doing so, I heartily encourage you to contribute content! This GSLIS is the Graduate School of Library and Information Science at the University of Illinois at Urbana Champaign.