Several days ago someone pointed out that certain age groups tend to confuse acquaintances with friends. I have heard teens say "he/she is my friend." when they couldn't remember that person's last name. This kind of usage suggests friendship with the lack of the intimacy and trust normally associated. If the expectation of this trust exists then one would get upset if a violation is presumed to have occurred. It would be as if we assumed that all AIR-1 members were "friends." Fancy that! Rasputin -----Original Message----- From: air-l-bounces@listserv.aoir.org [mailto:air-l-bounces@listserv.aoir.org] On Behalf Of Kevin Guidry Sent: Sunday, September 10, 2006 1:30 PM To: air-l@listserv.aoir.org Subject: Re: [Air-l] Facebook and privacy On 9/9/06, danah boyd <aoir.z3z@danah.org> wrote:
Why does everyone assume that Friends equals friends?
At the risk of sounding trite: because they're the same word. Those who created and maintain Facebook didn't pick that work out of the air. They may not have thought of all of the implications of using established terminology in a different way in a different context. Or they may have simply decided that the advantages of using established terminology outweighed the potential drawbacks. In any case, they certainly chose that word because of its meanings and connotations and this confusion is the price you pay for overloading a very common word with strong emotional meanings.
The term "friend" in the context of social network sites is not the same as in everyday vernacular. And people know this.
It appears to me that most of the confusion is experienced by those who have little or no experience in the alternative contexts - journalists, politicians, parents, etc.- in which the word is used. And thus their confusion is completely understandable. I don't think that most of us are confusing these two concepts. But the fact that these two concepts are represented by the same symbol certainly does make it all (use, discussion, analysis, meta-analysis, etc.) very...confusing. Kevin _______________________________________________ The air-l@listserv.aoir.org mailing list is provided by the Association of Internet Researchers http://aoir.org Subscribe, change options or unsubscribe at: http://listserv.aoir.org/listinfo.cgi/air-l-aoir.org Join the Association of Internet Researchers: http://www.aoir.org/